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I recently moved from having a smartphone to a flip phone and I have found it to be very freeing not having the internet available to me at all times. I have not banished the internet from my life, but rather put it back into a place that is not all-consuming. I still use the internet at home (obviously I’m commenting here), but when I am out, I no longer have the nagging feeling like there’s something I should do or see on my phone. Some moments I’ve enjoyed since having a flip phone:

- I got lost! (Not in a 127 hours type of way, but walking from the subway to a friends house and not fully remembering the way. I found it eventually, but being unsure if I was going the right way was an experience I haven’t had in so long!)

- Needing to talk to people to find out answers to questions (I was at a bar and a bunch of people came in for a show. There weren’t any signs saying who was playing, so I asked a girl at the bar. If I had my smart phone, I would have just looked it up, instead of having a nice interaction with a real live human being!)

- Leaving notes for my partner when I’m going out, instead of just texting. (This one is my favorite because I am a lover of ephemera. But a little handwritten note beats a text every time. )

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I thought you brought up some great points, and in large part I agree. Right now I am using a dumb phone temporarily for the month of February & I recently traded in my laptop for a desktop computer. In a sense it is saving me -- I am never going to be totally offline in some fantasy utopian way, but I want the internet to be a place I go, not something that I am consumed by.

I have a true addiction to endless feeds/scrolling/social media/whatever you want to call it & am trying to build new pathways in my brain outside of the ones that have been there for the past 15+ years in which my only 'hobby' was scrolling. This addiction has been the main struggle of my life. It might be better described as chronic disassociation to the point where I was regularly spending 8-10 hours/day on screens -- not talking to anyone or posting, just consuming (in addition to 8 hrs of work on a screen). I am only making progress because I have a therapist that has taken me seriously and is also treating this like the addiction it is.

And from what I have read of Lamm's work, it seems like she struggles with something very similar. For some folks that struggle with this addiction, putting extreme parameters around their internet use is the definition of their sobriety. And just personally I find it interesting to see the lengths to which people can go without tech these days.

You can say it's hypocritical to continue posting, then, but Lamm posts sporadically & frankly having a voice here on the internet from someone who is so offline has had a hugely positive impact on me. I am experiencing so much less shame just knowing that there are other folks out there that struggle with this too.

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